A few months ago, Multiply's CEO Stefan
blazoned out that Multiply will be closing its blogging services and instead
focus on the site's strength as an e-commerce portal. This news somehow pained
me because Multiply served as my first "relief valve". It was the first one which understood my musings as a
fifteen-year-old college freshman who used to be nine hours away from home. I
understand that there's no point in sniveling because that's the way how things
are - you just have to relish them while they're existent.
This morning, I was
trying to backup what's in there. The posts evoked a nostalgic feeling and I
somehow envied my former self for posting those things. With Laces and Tiaras,
I have found an outlet for my love for beauty and fashion. Spellbound Paperbacks,
on the other hand, nurses the bibliophile in me. However, it was my Multiply
account Sweetie Ballerina that unconditionally took my abysmal thoughts. As
Multiply bids adieu, I'm sharing some of the realizations I got from my entries
there.
1. No matter how good your
intentions are, you are going to get hurt because of false interpretations and
judgments. You really can't blame other people if they perceive you for
something you're not but you must never succumb to those thoughts. The persons
who truly know you will always love you and that's more than enough reason to
smile. There is definitely more to you than what meets other people's eyes and
if they fail to see that, that's their loss, not yours.
2.
Life is messy. Other people are far too messy and you likewise have your own
bouts of messiness. Perhaps the best thing you can do is to put certain
boundaries between you and the world. Creating boundaries doesn't necessarily
equate to you isolating yourself. As Meredith Grey puts it, "Boundaries
don't keep other people out, they fence you in."
3. Once in a while, people will
surprise you and even take your breath away. The lesson is that
sometimes, you just have to give them a chance to do so. Years ago, I
went to bed every night crying and wondering what I did wrong or how could I
misunderstood the person I loved most. I've let bitterness consume myself;
I've resorted to locking my heart and playing safe.
Just
when I thought it wouldn't happen, my self-imposed barriers crashed. There's
this person who made me forget those lonesome months when I felt
flimsy. Allowing his love to shine through me was indeed one of the most
mature decisions that I've taken. I came to a realization that my past two
relationships were devoid of God's meaning and purpose. For this, I will be
eternally grateful that He gave
me someone beyond what I've dreamed of and prayed for.
Are you likewise a
Multiply baby?
